If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then hell no, you can't "just be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.or a better job. Do not make him into a god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated WITH you, he'll cheat ON you.individuals...look for someone complimentary…not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right.readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

This is an article that I came across back in 2011-2012 timeframe. I have a link for it; unfortunately the link is out of date and I can’t find the original author.

 

I was working with a woman, mid 30s, successful in every aspect, beautiful and yet she was chasing men. Like all of us, she had a good reason. She was using relationships to fill the void that had been created within her from years of neglect and abuse by her parents.

 

I came across this article and gave it to her. She immediately recognized herself, as well as some behaviors she decided to change. Now obviously this is based on a man; however it goes both ways.

 

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

 

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. Don't make plans around theirs, if they want to see you they will.

 

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

 

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

 

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education

 

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

 

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE

 

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always

 

And finally: if you find love let it go...and if it comes back it’s yours to keep.

 

Original link http://www.divinecaroline.com/22065/35337-wants (no longer active)